Online Therapy for Big Life Changes in Portland and throughout Oregon & Washington
Embrace the Future with confidence
You know that change is coming and you don’t feel ready.
It’s like time is moving too fast and you just can’t keep up.
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You know that things in your life are changing and you can’t help but worry. You wake up in the morning and go about your day, trying to ignore the inevitable, but the thoughts keep creeping up.
“Am I making the right choice by committing to this person?” “Am I ready to become a parent?” “Will I feel ready for another kid?”
Though this may be an exciting time in your life, it doesn’t mean that it can’t be a scary time too. You know that moving in together, having a wedding or bringing a new child into the family is just one day in your life. But what happens next?
How do you stop the worries about joining your life with another human and their mostly great, but sometimes a little too overbearing family from keeping you up at night? OR how do you stop the panic of not being able to meet your new child’s needs and picking the right preschool that will obviously decide their entire future and success in life?
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You did it. You went to school or got the training, maybe you’ve even worked your way up the ladder a bit and now you’re ready for the next big step. Or are you? You’ve worked so hard to get to this point; often sacrificing sleep, time with friends and family and so much money to get here.
Though now that it's so close, the reality sets in and the panic starts.
“What if I don’t actually know what I’m doing?” “What if they find out I’m no good at this?” “What if I fail?”
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Whether you want to call it a quarter-life crisis, mid-life crisis or something else completely, you know that things are changing and you don’t know what to do with it. You’re finding yourself reflecting on what your life has been like up to this point and worrying about what your future will look like.
Regrets, fears and uncertainty keep finding their way into your days.
You look around at people your age and think what did they do differently to get the life you wish you had. Or maybe you did get to live the life you wanted and are now ready to head into retirement, but you are feeling nervous about what that means for your identity and self-worth.
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You still remember the day your little one was born. You remember looking at that tiny little face, those tiny little feet and feeling the warmth and maybe a bit of panic that filled your chest. But you figured it out, made the sacrifices and raised this unique and wonderful human being…
Now they want to leave you and start their own life and you just don’t feel ready. Thoughts start creeping into your mind, “How will I protect them from far away?” “Did I do everything that I could to get them ready?” “What do I do now?” “How will my relationship with my partner change?” “Do we even have anything in common anymore?”
No matter what big life change you are facing, you know that it's coming and you know that you’re not quite ready. So many questions remain unanswered and you’re finding yourself feeling lost, worried, maybe even pulling away from those you love because it feels like they just don’t get it.
Take a deep breath and step into the future with confidence.
What if every time you thought about the future, you were filled with hope, certainty and joy?
Our work together will involve learning all about what is happening for you as you face this transition. I believe in looking at the entire person and not just your symptoms to truly understand your experiences, beliefs and culture. We will use different tools and techniques to help you gain new insight into your feelings, how your past may be influencing them, give you space to grieve what you are leaving behind and help you in feeling confident as you plan your future journey.
Imagine what it would be like if you:
Stopped questioning your decisions
Felt fully engaged in your relationships
Embraced your next life step as a new and exciting adventure
Had compassion for yourself during this change
Were able to comfortably navigate both the grief and excitement that comes with this new life stage
Some areas I specialize in:
Relationships
Growing families
Launching
School and career
Retirement
Grief and loss
Relocation
Meeting goals and next steps
EMDR
Some tools i use:
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is a well-researched, helpful therapy that works on your memories and beliefs to ease depression, anxiety and other uncomfortable feelings. It uses techniques like eye movements or tapping to help your brain process stressful experiences in a calming way. This can make you feel more at ease and give you better tools to handle distress when it comes up.
Integrative Mental Health
I've received specialized training that allows me to explore all aspects of your well-being to uncover any factors contributing to you feeling unwell. This includes examining your sleep patterns, diet, physical activity, and other areas of health to identify potential areas for improvement that can help you feel better.
Take your next big step
Therapy for big life changes can help you…
Trust your choices and decisions
Embrace the next big step in your life with confidence
Gain a deeper understanding of who you are
Accept the bittersweetness of change
Improve your most cherished relationships
Your next big adventure awaits.
“Boldly step into your future.”
Questions?
FAQs
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I have several years of experience working with folks who are going through everything from relationship changes, parenting struggles and stepping into adulthood to career changes, big moves, retirement and so many others. I have, also, personally gone through several big changes in my life and will sometimes draw from my own experiences to help illustrate examples and make connections. Though all of my experience is important, you are still the expert on your life. Together we will look at your unique situation and help you feel good about moving into your next step with peace and confidence.
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Yes. Often we may feel guilty for struggling during transitions that are supposed to be "good." It is completely normal to feel multiple emotions at the same time. Though we are gaining so much, there is still some loss of the past and adjustment to your new life involved. Together we will help you understand your emotions, find ways to care for yourself and embrace to your new life.
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Embarking on a new journey can often cause worry. You are experiencing something new and unknown and this can feel unsettling. It doesn't mean that you are not excited or ready. Together we can help you work through the anxiety to help you feel ready for this new transition.